Don’t Shout, Be Gentle

Talking gently

Talking gently does not necessarily involved whispering. But maintaining a normal tone of voice even when agitated will really help you.


When we are agitated, irked, uncomfortable, angry, irritated, and whatever negative emotion we are capable of feeling, it is easy to just raise our voices in a shout.

There could be a shout of frustration where you yell in their air to release tension. However, most of our shouts are actually hurled at others. And this raising of voices does not discount who we are facing at the moment. In the heat of our anger, we are bound to shout at employees, friends, students, co-workers, and most hurtfully, our family members who love and care for us.

So as much as you can, do not shout. Be gentle in your words. And how could you possibly do it when there are just so many things pulling at your hair and thinning your patience? By soaking yourself in God’s word and in prayer. After all, gentleness is part of the fruit of the Spirit. A person who is walking or operating in the Holy Spirit would bear his fruit, which includes gentleness. It seems kinda impossible if we just do it ourselves, in our capacities, but through the Holy Spirit, it is possible.

Do not undermine the effects of gentle words. You will avoid hurting others with harsh words but at the same time, you will reap most of the benefits. Because if you start speaking in a loud voice, you feel the anger rising to your head. Your heart would start pounding loudly in your chest and you would feel a choking sensation. You voice will keep increasing in decibels that after your burst of anger, you will feel that your throat is sore. That is not good for the health. You might eventually get a stroke or a heart attack from just shouting too much.

You can still feel angry without shouting. Keeping yourself calm will not lessen the fault done against you, but it will control the anger that you are feeling that can hurt and the people around you.

I should know. Because I had been there and had done the angry part. Now it is time to practice being gentle.

Proverbs 15:1 1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

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